Wednesday, August 19, 2009
Condom Negotiation on Seven Continents
Wherever you travel it’s always useful to know a few words in the local language. Hello, goodbye, please and thank you are always a good start. How to ask your smoldering Greek tour guide to wear a condom isn’t something a lot of people plan for. Whether or not you intend to find romance abroad, the summer fling has certainly been known to happen. Here is our pocket travel guide to condom negotiation on seven continents.If you’re an English speaker, travelling in North America is a cinch. The majority of the population are either native speakers or have fluent ESL skills. But, always better to be safe than sorry!
If you find yourself tramping through rural Quebec you might ask:Est-ce que tu as un preservative? (pronounced ehs-kuh tueh ah uh prey-zerh-vah-teef)
If you’re going a little more exotic and trekking through South America, be armed to ask if the other person has a condom in Spanish or Portuguese: SpanishTienes un condon? (pronounced Tyeh-nehs oon kohn-dohn)PortugueseTens um preservativo? (pronounced Tengsh oong pre-zer-va-tee-vo)
Australia is a no-brainer for those English speakers again. May we suggest adding a ‘mate’ to the end of you sentence? As in…‘do you have a condom, mate?’
A trek across Europe poses a challenge. With dozens of languages only a day’s travel apart you might have to do some research ahead of time. To start you off, here’s Italian and German:
Italian: I have only safe sexFaccio solo sesso sicruo (pronounced Fah-choh sho-loh sehs-soh see-koo-roh)
German: Let’s use a condom Lass uns ein Kondom
benutzenAsia, the backpackers haven, poses a similar challenge to Europe. Occupying a broad swath of the globe, languages run the gamut from Mandarin to Punjabi to Tamil. Get started with some phonetic versions of Thai and Tagalog:
Thai: Let’s use a condomChai tung yahng gan teut
Tagalog: Do you have a condom?May kondom ka ba?
We never said it would be easy, and Africa poses another challenge. The local dialect isn’t something that you can find in a traveler’s guide. French is widely spoken throughout the continent and is a good safe bet. You can also prepare yourself with some Modern Standard Arabic in case you find yourself in Northern Africa.Phonetically, the word for condom in Arabic is Al-waa kee. To ask someone if they have something you would say Hal la-day-ku-mu. String it together and you’ve got “do you have a condom?
Finally, we are left with Antarctica. With no permanent residents, if you are visiting Antarctica you will likely find yourself in a population of cold, lonely research scientists who could be from anywhere across the globe. If you’re struggling to communicate with the lonely scientist of your choice, we suggest that you fall back on the ancient art of pantomime when things starting heating up.
There’s nothing as safe as being prepared and being ready to take your sexual health into your own hands.
Happy Trails!
Taken from the A Word.
Friday, August 14, 2009
August Bad Date Sheet 2009
Bad Date Sheet –August 2009
If you would like to report a bad date please see staff at Exit, Safeworks, Calgary Drop in
Centre, Shift or other community partners. You can also call our 24 hour hot-line number
and leave a message. All of your calls will be anonymous and confidential. Call 403-237-
8171 and leave a description of the date, the vehicle they drove, and what happened.
Exit Van Cell: 512-9041 Safeworks: 850-3755 Shift: 237-8171
Date: July 14th 2009.
Description of event: A neighbor in Forest Lawn saw a man pick up a worker and drag her by
her hair into the vehicle.
Description of the date: The date was an older man with white hair and beard.
Description of the Vehicle: White minivan with dent in driver side door.
Date: June 20th or 21st 2009 between 10 and 11 am.
Description of event: The date met the worker at the Esso Truck stop. The worker agreed to
$40 for a blow job. After the services the date asked the worker to get out of the car without being
paid. The worker refused to leave the car; the date gave the worker a piece of paper and threw
her out of the car without payment.
Description of the date: The date was in late 40’s; he was chubby and appeared to be of Middle
Eastern descent. The date had curly black hair, and brown eyes. The date was wearing a blue
uniform. The date had a heavy accent and may have had a mustache.
Description of the Vehicle: A blue security company car there was reflective tape around the
car. The car was a four door, automatic vehicle.
Date: Middle of May 2009
Description of event: The date met the worker by Fort Calgary. The date and the worker
smoked crack together for several hours, the date requested oral sex numerous times. The date
drove the worker to Okotoks and told the worker to get out of the car. The date gave the worker
$40 for a cab.
Description of the date: The date was 57 year old black man, he weighed 195 pounds and was
5’10.
Description of the Vehicle: A dark green 1990 car with champagne sheets.
Date: April 2009 at 2:30 AM
Description of event: The date met the worker at the Shamrock bar after closing. The worker
agreed to $200 for a date. The date and the worker walked to the date’s apartment on Edmonton
Trail. The date was very nice to worker at first. When they got to the apartment the date ripped off
the worker’s shirt, slapped her, and held her by the throat. The date threatened to follow the
worker if she left; the date then raped the worker and held her hostage for three hours. When the
date’s roommates came home the worker was allowed to leave. It looked like there were several
people living in the rooming house.
Description of the date: The date was in his 20’s; he was a black man with a medium build. The
man was approximately 6’2 and had brown eyes.
Description of the Vehicle: On foot.
Date: End of April 2009
Description of event: Date tried to negotiate with worker from outside of the car to do a date for
$40. The worker refused and started to walk from Inglewood to the King Eddy area. The date
followed the worker, they were joking around while she was walking and the date was driving.
The date appeared to be very friendly and nice. The worker asked the date for a ride home, the
date agreed to drive the worker home. They went to a MACS store then he drove the worker to
South Calgary near Macleod and Anderson. The date drove through a bus trap and got out of the
vehicle to go to the bathroom. When the date came back to the car he stabbed the worker with a
knife. The date tied up her hands with his belt and then dropped her off and the Police found her.
Description of the date: The date said his name was Nicholas; he was 20 to 30 years old. The
man was white, cute, and young looking. His hair was cut short.
Description of the Vehicle: A grey car with automatic transmission, there was a GPS router on
the dash.
Date: June 1st 2009
Description of the event: The worker met the date on Centre Street and 14th Ave. they went to
Esso to get a drink and then they went to his apartment near 13th Ave and 5 or 6th street. The
worker agreed to a date for $100. Once they were having sex the worker noticed anger in the
date’s eyes, he then started to strangle her and the worker tried to stop having sex. The date then
raped the worker, the worker managed to run out of the apartment the date then caught her and
dragged her inside and threatened to kill her. The date stood on the workers chest and attempted
to bend her arm backwards. The worker eventually escaped and the date threw her clothes into
the hallway after her.
Description of the Date: The date appeared be a 22 year old white male with a thick French
accent. The date had brown eyes, short neat wavy dark hair. He was well built and attractive and
wearing a black parasuco t-shift, gold chain, dark black jeans, and black running shoes. The date
was around 5’5 or 5’6.
Date: Febuary.25th 2009
Description of event: Date picked up worker by Centre 15; he took the worker to the Cemetery
and attempted to rape the worker.
Description of the date: A 30ish man with a medium build and dark skin. The man appeared to
be of Philippine descent and had black eyes and hair.
Description of the Vehicle: Red Toyota Corolla, appeared to be a 90’s model of car.
What is the Shift program?
Shift offers support services to all people involved in the sex trade. Shift hopes to improve the
working conditions for people working by advocating, educating and empowering them to make
healthier choices. We work from a harm reduction and rights based approach and offer
nonjudgmental support, referrals, and outreach to people who are working in the sex trade
whether they want to exit or not. Shift also provides safer sex supplies such as condoms, flavored
condoms, lube and dental dams. Call us at 237-8171or email us at shift@aidscalgary.org
Drop in at 110, 1603, 10th avenue SW Tuesday to Friday 8:30 to 12:30 and 1:30 to 4:30.
Special thanks to all of our community partners for their help in collecting bad date
reports: Exit Community Outreach, Calgary Drop-in Centre, and Safeworks.
If you would like to report a bad date please see staff at Exit, Safeworks, Calgary Drop in
Centre, Shift or other community partners. You can also call our 24 hour hot-line number
and leave a message. All of your calls will be anonymous and confidential. Call 403-237-
8171 and leave a description of the date, the vehicle they drove, and what happened.
Exit Van Cell: 512-9041 Safeworks: 850-3755 Shift: 237-8171
Date: July 14th 2009.
Description of event: A neighbor in Forest Lawn saw a man pick up a worker and drag her by
her hair into the vehicle.
Description of the date: The date was an older man with white hair and beard.
Description of the Vehicle: White minivan with dent in driver side door.
Date: June 20th or 21st 2009 between 10 and 11 am.
Description of event: The date met the worker at the Esso Truck stop. The worker agreed to
$40 for a blow job. After the services the date asked the worker to get out of the car without being
paid. The worker refused to leave the car; the date gave the worker a piece of paper and threw
her out of the car without payment.
Description of the date: The date was in late 40’s; he was chubby and appeared to be of Middle
Eastern descent. The date had curly black hair, and brown eyes. The date was wearing a blue
uniform. The date had a heavy accent and may have had a mustache.
Description of the Vehicle: A blue security company car there was reflective tape around the
car. The car was a four door, automatic vehicle.
Date: Middle of May 2009
Description of event: The date met the worker by Fort Calgary. The date and the worker
smoked crack together for several hours, the date requested oral sex numerous times. The date
drove the worker to Okotoks and told the worker to get out of the car. The date gave the worker
$40 for a cab.
Description of the date: The date was 57 year old black man, he weighed 195 pounds and was
5’10.
Description of the Vehicle: A dark green 1990 car with champagne sheets.
Date: April 2009 at 2:30 AM
Description of event: The date met the worker at the Shamrock bar after closing. The worker
agreed to $200 for a date. The date and the worker walked to the date’s apartment on Edmonton
Trail. The date was very nice to worker at first. When they got to the apartment the date ripped off
the worker’s shirt, slapped her, and held her by the throat. The date threatened to follow the
worker if she left; the date then raped the worker and held her hostage for three hours. When the
date’s roommates came home the worker was allowed to leave. It looked like there were several
people living in the rooming house.
Description of the date: The date was in his 20’s; he was a black man with a medium build. The
man was approximately 6’2 and had brown eyes.
Description of the Vehicle: On foot.
Date: End of April 2009
Description of event: Date tried to negotiate with worker from outside of the car to do a date for
$40. The worker refused and started to walk from Inglewood to the King Eddy area. The date
followed the worker, they were joking around while she was walking and the date was driving.
The date appeared to be very friendly and nice. The worker asked the date for a ride home, the
date agreed to drive the worker home. They went to a MACS store then he drove the worker to
South Calgary near Macleod and Anderson. The date drove through a bus trap and got out of the
vehicle to go to the bathroom. When the date came back to the car he stabbed the worker with a
knife. The date tied up her hands with his belt and then dropped her off and the Police found her.
Description of the date: The date said his name was Nicholas; he was 20 to 30 years old. The
man was white, cute, and young looking. His hair was cut short.
Description of the Vehicle: A grey car with automatic transmission, there was a GPS router on
the dash.
Date: June 1st 2009
Description of the event: The worker met the date on Centre Street and 14th Ave. they went to
Esso to get a drink and then they went to his apartment near 13th Ave and 5 or 6th street. The
worker agreed to a date for $100. Once they were having sex the worker noticed anger in the
date’s eyes, he then started to strangle her and the worker tried to stop having sex. The date then
raped the worker, the worker managed to run out of the apartment the date then caught her and
dragged her inside and threatened to kill her. The date stood on the workers chest and attempted
to bend her arm backwards. The worker eventually escaped and the date threw her clothes into
the hallway after her.
Description of the Date: The date appeared be a 22 year old white male with a thick French
accent. The date had brown eyes, short neat wavy dark hair. He was well built and attractive and
wearing a black parasuco t-shift, gold chain, dark black jeans, and black running shoes. The date
was around 5’5 or 5’6.
Date: Febuary.25th 2009
Description of event: Date picked up worker by Centre 15; he took the worker to the Cemetery
and attempted to rape the worker.
Description of the date: A 30ish man with a medium build and dark skin. The man appeared to
be of Philippine descent and had black eyes and hair.
Description of the Vehicle: Red Toyota Corolla, appeared to be a 90’s model of car.
What is the Shift program?
Shift offers support services to all people involved in the sex trade. Shift hopes to improve the
working conditions for people working by advocating, educating and empowering them to make
healthier choices. We work from a harm reduction and rights based approach and offer
nonjudgmental support, referrals, and outreach to people who are working in the sex trade
whether they want to exit or not. Shift also provides safer sex supplies such as condoms, flavored
condoms, lube and dental dams. Call us at 237-8171or email us at shift@aidscalgary.org
Drop in at 110, 1603, 10th avenue SW Tuesday to Friday 8:30 to 12:30 and 1:30 to 4:30.
Special thanks to all of our community partners for their help in collecting bad date
reports: Exit Community Outreach, Calgary Drop-in Centre, and Safeworks.
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